Let's start off with two simple scenarios, shall we? Guys, look at this from a different perspective if necessary. Ladies, correct them when they're wrong. What am I saying? Of course you will. That's part of why we guys love you ladies, you keep us in line. We need that. Guys, if you say you don't then you're only lying to yourselves. Embrace it.
Ok, let me set this first scenario up...
Imagine you're meeting up with your girlfriend out on the road. You're parked right next to each other. Me, I've got 2 big, slobbering mutts. Three if I'm honest about it; I sometimes drool too so I suppose I count. So you and your significant other (ladies, you're always the significant other as we guys can barely dress ourselves. It could even be argued that we can't even though we have pants and shirt on.) take the beasts for walks, hang out and watch movies, go get a bite to eat together and go back to separate vehicles to go to bed.
The next morning, say 5:30 ish, you look over all "googly eyed" as she's getting herself together enough to feel comfortable going inside. (We guys, we feel comfortable going out in public regardless of how ridiculous we look. That's part of why we need you ladies.) That's when some random dude walks by and knocks on her door. "You single?" That's his only question. Hasn't even seen her outside her vehicle, and if he has, she's been with you. Lucky guy that you are, she points right at you and says "I'm with him". Makes you feel all "Grog thump chest. Grog happy her claim him" doesn't it guys? It's ok. We all have a little caveman in us. Again, embrace it fellas.
Then that inner caveman shifts gears. Wait...did this clown just walk up and open with "you single?"?! Did he seriously just wander through the truck stop before dawn and try a singles bar pickup line on her?! This guy couldn't see anything but her shoulders up and went "she'll do". Insulting. To both you and her. Right folks?
Scenario number two: your significant other has a slight mechanical issue. You're 1,000 miles away from her but on the phone. You hear a guy who appears gentlemanly trying to help her. You hear her telling the guy about her boyfriend. Repeatedly. Again with the "Grog hear her claim him. Grog's eyeballs sweating. What happen to Grog?" He's clearly aware she has a boyfriend and seems to genuinely just want to help her. That's the right thing to do.
As any nice guy would, he offers to buy her lunch. He's friendly, there's no reason to not be nice and accept. How many of us have gone to lunch with new friends to talk about work? Pretty much all of us.
Guys, you know where this is going. Ladies, most of you are already starting to cringe. Why? Because not even 10 minutes into lunch the new guy friend is beginning to make inappropriate comments. Openly hitting on her.
Raise your hand if you saw that coming. You've got your hand raised, don't you ladies? Guys, put your hands down. We are guys, we knew what was going to happen from the beginning of "you hear a guy". And the "he offers to buy her lunch" triggers all sorts of alarms. I'll be honest, I kept my composure when I heard it but I kinda wanted to yell "don't do it, it's a trap!" Why? Because most of the males reading this know that's some weird "guy code" for "I know you're with someone but I've gotta give it a shot." Sad. Sad that we are that predictably shallow and disrespectful as a breed. Are all guys like this? No. But many are. I bet you ladies are going "no, no MOST of them are!" It's getting so the pigs in the group outnumber the guys that don't actually have "ulterior motives" when it comes to women.
Why is that? We all see these scenarios frequently. Or some variation thereof. We shake our heads at these guys who do this. We've all heard the lines... A lady says "I'm married" the guy says "I won't tell". Or he says "well I don't see him right now".
It's like watching Animal Planet some days. "Watch as the male attempts to separate the attractive female from the herd. See how he stealthily slides up to her...watch as he uses primitive phrases in an effort to steal her from her mate. Ooohh...she shoots him down! But wait! He's undaunted and tries to move in closer. Unfazed by her rejection he is determined. We can tell he has finally given up when he insults her and skulks off to lick his wounds. His pride may take days to recover"
Folks, this is not acceptable behavior. I know it and you know it yet we see it happen. For the men out there, let me ask you something. Imagine you have a daughter. Imagine every guy out there is treating her like a piece of meat. Wanna hit someone yet? You'd want her treated with respect, right? Well guess where that starts. It starts with us. It starts with teaching our kids to treat people with respect and honor commitments. Theirs and others'.
On that note, if you've got a significant other what are you hitting on other women for?! Notice I directed this at guys? There's a reason. And you guys be honest about this. Most of the time it's guys trying to chat up women. Women don't usually walk around going "you single?". Nor do they invite us to lunch and try to use it as an opportunity to get us in bed. There are a couple reasons for that. One, most single guys don't need any coaxing. Just hint at sex and he's paying the check before the appetizer hits the table. Second, maybe most women just have more class than we animalistic males.
Guys, please, if we can get offended by stupid stuff why can't we get offended enough about having your wives and daughters disrespected to make a change?